Autism and Dating – Top Six Links to Read If Your Single

Being twenty one, Autistic and suffering from a learning disorder, I’ve always felt rejected and unwanted by many in my lifetime. The world can be a very cruel place to live and extremely complicated; if you want to try new things, everyone will tell you that you must wait until the right moment comes along. Is that right? No, it’s wrong!

Life’s too short to wait for something that’ll never come, unless you push the boundaries a bit. That’s me; all my life, I’ve always wanted to find a certain someone, who’ll love and cherish me for who I am (and see through me, instead of a stranger with autism). Also, I’ve always wanted to find more friends who aren’t on the Autism spectrum who’ll accept me for who I am. But, things aren’t going exactly how I’ve planned; true, I know many people who have Autism and I adore them, but wouldn’t it be nice to have a fair mixture?

For years, my Mum has been signing me up to Autistic girl groups. Some have been great, as I’ve made many friends; others, not so much. And to be honest (as much as I still love her to bits), I’m getting tired of it. How I am going to learn and hang out with others, with confidence if I’m stuck in the same position all the time? I guess she doubts me sometimes (properly I’m stuck to the computer a lot), but I’m determined to prove everyone wrong and show an Autistic woman can independently find friends and be in a relationship.

And last week, my task officially began with a meeting, one with my National Autistic Society (NAS) learning monitor who introduced me to different links that I hope would inspire me to take the next level in these simple steps – R.E.S.E.A.R.C.H. (Read, Educate, Simplify, Elevate, Action, Respect, Confidence and Hope)

At the moment, I’m on the first step – research. Try and find different dating, and friend websites and just keep trying. Soon, I’ll be on the second step – educate – myself and the person/people I meet, through other people’s experiences (online and real life), theirs and mine. I’m unsure how long this process will be, but I’m keeping my fingers crossed for positive changes.

Also, I’ve decided to share the links I’ve found with my learning monitor; I’ve read them properly yet but I’m hoping to at some point. I thought that they could help with you guys or anyone you know who is on the autism spectrum, and/or wants to seek love and new friends:

http://kerrymagro.com/dating-and-autism-what-i-learned-from-communicating-with-1000-women-in-30-days/

http://autisticfemale.com/2012/02/16/for-my-valentine/

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/11/online-dating-on-the-autism-spectrum/281710/

http://wrongplanet.net/whats-love-got-to-do-with-it-a-girls-perspective-on-relationships-and-autism/

http://the-toast.net/2015/01/15/dating-while-autistic/

http://www.adultaspergerschat.com/2013/10/online-dating-tips-for-lonely-adults-on.html

And if you guys know more blog posts, articles or stories about love and/or autistic love, please let me know in the comments below.

Until then, I wish you all a pleasant evening from the UK and don’t stop believing – in your dreams and reality – miracles can happen, wherever you are.

Gigi. Xxxxx

Author: Sez

My name is Sez. I am on the Autistic Spectrum; I was diagnosed when I was two years old. Being Autistic can be tricky; I easily jump into conclusions and miss important skills that are part of my social life. However, my "condition" hasn't stopped me from doing the things I love. I am currently studying Performing Arts at a Drama school in London. I'm a hard worker and a dreamer. Also, I love creative writing and writing lyrics. I'm a keen adventurer and would love to travel the world. I want to take this opportunity to thank you for reading my blog. I hope you enjoy actingmylife. :)

7 thoughts on “Autism and Dating – Top Six Links to Read If Your Single”

    1. When I was younger, I used to be on my own, be scared of loud noises like balloons popping, used to find it difficult socialising with others and get sacred when I used to talk on the phone to someone, let alone pick it up. I had homeopathic treatment and therapy to help me over come some of my situations.

      Now, I’m afraid of loud noises, I hang out with people, confident with the phone and starting to find socialising a little bit easier. However, I still find it hard to make conversations with others (sometimes I can be really quiet when I have nothing else left to say), and I am fascinated with historic dates and anything to do within the performing arts industry.

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      1. Well I am on my own now and I’m not that young. I do believe sudden loud noises can scare anybody. I have trouble socializing too. In fact I get extremely nervous when I have to do a presentation in class, like, scared :c And I think awkward silences when you have nothing to say are very common cx

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      2. I know just how you feel; presentations can be terrifying because everyone knows that they are the only times where strangers/those who you know are watching you. But no one is alone in this world because they’ll be those who will come to love and take care of you – friends, family, even loved ones.

        I come up with awkward sentences too, especially in front of children even though I love them. Xx

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      3. I know! It’s so bad D: Presentations are no fun :c I’ll have to take some pills if it doesn’t get any better…
        Well I doubt anybody will really support me on that cx Or in anything, but that’s another story.
        You talk to kids often? c:

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